Tips for parents from OT

HCEITips for Parents

The following is a list of suggestions to facilitate your child’s development. Remember, play is the way children learn almost everything., including language, social skills, motor skills. They repeat the activities they see their family doing. They learn about the physical properties of all their toys including size, weight, texture, visual perception, and how things fit together. They develop all of the senses and all of their muscles while playing.

If your child is allergic to any of the items suggested, then an item of similar texture may be substituted.


  • Allow child to comb /brush hair.
  • Practice playing in water with supervision and exploring toothbrush/toothpaste (with supervision so as not to swallow) in preparation for brushing teeth.
  • If your child’s mouth is sensitive when trying to brush teeth, encourage your child to try wiping the mouth with a warm washcloth and to keep doing it before brushing teeth.
  • Allow your child to play in water with supervision and rub face and hands in preparation for hand washing.


  • Children are able to take off their clothes before putting them on. Allow your child to assist in his/her dressing.
  • Lay out clothes so that child can explore and “try on” various items. Allow the older child to pick out own clothes to wear.
  • Play “dress up” Make dressing FUN!
  • Lace an old shoe in preparation for eventual shoelace tying.
  • Orient to identifying body parts by pointing and saying names of various parts of the body as you assist your child to dress or bathe.


  • Never leave a child unattended in the tub, or around water, even with just a little water in the tub.
  • Place favorite waterproof toys/bubbles in water so child can explore under your supervision to get used to being in the water.
  • Rub child with warm washcloth/towel to minimize fear/intolerance of water.
  • Allow your child to play in a little tub of water on the floor under your supervision.

Sensory Learning

  • Use bean bag chair during play, music, or reading tasks. This is for calming.
  • Allow child to “sandwich” self using beanbag chair/cushions during story time, listening to music, etc. This will help with calming.
  • Use headphones and calming music to cut down on auditory distractions.
  • Use visor/hat to block visual glare, even indoors, if light is bothering her.
  • A visor or hat can also be used to reduce visual distractions in the room if your child is easily distracted. Or try finding a place that is small and separated from the main part of the room as a place to do table activities.
  • Encourage exploration of and participation in activities such as finger painting, use of shaving cream, play-doh/clay/putty, digging in dirt, and water, even if messy. This encourages exposure/tolerance to different textures.
  • Provide slow rocking/soft lighting to calm or fast rocking to alert.
  • Allow for crawling, hopping, and jumping activities to increase awareness of position of body in space.
  • During transitions between different activities, gradually shift from activity of interest to the next necessary activity. Example: from playing to getting ready for bed.
  • Sing a lullaby to child before bedtime.
  • Clap hands/stomp feet to music.


  • Match basic shapes (circle, square, triangle)
  • Trace shapes in the sand, shaving cream, with fingerpaints, or on sandpaper.
  • Try shape puzzles in preparation for sorting and matching skills.
  • Tracking child’s favorite toy/flashlight on wall to improve visual scanning and crossing midline of body.
  • Place items in the middle in front of child and allow his/her hand dominance to naturally develop.
  • Encourage crossing midline of body with the hands by placement of toys of interest on opposite side to where child is playing so that she will rotate to get them.
  • Encourage use of both hands during activities such as play-doh, carrying items, ball toss/catch, and self-care.
  • Play pat-a-cake, “Simon Says,” imitating what you do, guiding younger children as needed.
  • Rolling ball and toss/catch.

Using Hands and Developing Grasp

  • Roll play-doh/clay/putty into a log or small balls with fingertips and squeeze. Child should be well-supervised to avoid swallowing.
  • Fill coffee can with clothespins. Then, place clothespins around edge of can and remove again, as your child gets older.
  • Pick up cheerios.
  • Turn pages of a book.
  • Squeeze soft sponge or ball.
  • Practice unfastening zippers and unsnapping clothing.
  • Press buttons on music box.
  • Make a snowman with marshmallows and frostng.
  • Build towers with blocks and construction toys (legos, plastic pop beads). Be cautious of size. Small items can cause choking hazard.
  • Working on a vertical surface such as an easel or paper taped on the refrigerator or wall for drawing and painting helps to develop a mature grasp.
  • Have the child imitate drawing a vertical straight line on a vertical surface like an easel or taped paper on wall.
  • Attempt to draw a horizontal line on an upright surface when your child is able to draw a vertical line. Children develop grasp at their own rate. Do not force this.

Seating Suggestions

  • Children can learn hand skills best if their feet are flat on the floor while sitting at a table to do activities. If your child’s feet don’t reach the floor, try putting an old phone book or other large book under her feet while she plays at the table.
  • Decrease wiggling and sliding using a non-skid mat on seat of chair. These can be found at Wal-Mart, K-Mart, and some grocery stores.